They left. It tore something on the way out. We close it properly.
A precision coaching protocol for heartbreak, grief, and emotional dysregulation — built by a PhD who has walked more than 1,500 people through the worst night of their lives and out the other side.
Evidence tags from 1,500 case files. Read them slowly. Count the ones that are yours.
Before you buy anything from me, take this. It’s the emergency protocol I give everyone on day one. It works whether or not we ever speak.
No contact. Not closure-seeking, not “just returning their hoodie,” not a heart on their story. Mute everything. Move the apps off your home screen. Forty-eight hours minimum — every contact resets the clock on your own recovery.
Heartbreak is physical — your body is running a stress response it thinks is life-or-death. Feed it like a patient: water in the morning, protein twice a day, twenty minutes of walking outside. Body first. The mind follows the body.
Tell one person the whole truth of it. Not ten people, not a group chat performance — one human who hears the unedited version. Being witnessed once, fully, does more than being half-seen fifty times.
When the spiral hits, set a timer for twenty minutes and write everything down — the rage, the bargaining, the message you want to send. When the timer ends, you stop, and nothing gets sent. The feeling gets its say. It doesn’t get the wheel.
Dark room. Phone charging across the room, not in your hand. Something boring in your ears. You will not fix your life at 2 a.m. — every recovery I’ve ever guided was built by someone who started sleeping again.
That buys you 72 hours. The Protocol handles the rest.
Grief without structure becomes a residence. The Exit Wound Protocol moves in one direction — through it — in three deliberate phases.
Stop the bleeding. Sleep, food, the 3 a.m. spiral, the urge to text them — we get the nervous system back under command before anything else.
Days 1–14: daily structure, dysregulation first-aid, and a human on the other end of the line.
What actually happened — not the story your worst hours tell you. We take the relationship apart on the table, piece by piece, until it stops running your head.
Weeks 3–6: pattern work, attachment forensics, the honest autopsy of what was and wasn’t real.
You don’t go back to who you were. You go forward as someone the old version couldn’t have become. Identity, standards, and re-entry into your own life.
Weeks 7–8: the forward plan — who you are now, what you require, and what you’ll never tolerate again.
I hold a PhD in psychology, and I have spent my career in the specific territory nobody wants to visit: heartbreak, grief, emotional dysregulation, and the long walk back. More than 1,500 people have gone through that territory with me. Not one of them was as broken as they believed they were on day one.
This is coaching, not therapy — and that’s a feature. There is no diagnosis, no file, no clinical script. We talk about whatever the recovery actually requires: the ex, the anger, the shame, the 2 a.m. ideas you’d never say out loud. Whatever you need to get right, we will find it and do it.
You bring the wound. I bring the protocol.
I’d rather turn you away in one paragraph than waste two months of your life. Read both columns.
Not sure which column you’re in? That’s a fine reason to book a single $89 hour and find out.
Every program runs two months. Every program ends with you on the other side. The only variable is how much firepower you want along the way.
No program, no commitment. One hour, one problem, full attention. Book one when you need it — or hold a Field Pack of four in reserve.
“Whatever you need to get right — we will find it, and we will do it.”
Tell me what happened. Two sentences or two pages — whatever you can manage today. It comes directly to me, and I answer personally.
Prefer email? Write directly: drgrief@theexitwound.com